So, few days ago a girl added me on Facebook, and this is what I found on her page…
The most dangerous creatures on the planet are not snakes, tigers, or sharks. They are wounded males, who never had the chance to be soft, and the same time safe. Which have learned that pain is not shown but is transformed into force and aggression. And so they have turned their life into wrath, control, the need to win, to dominated, to show everyone. From boys that needed a hug became men that have a need to control.
And the World is run by an army of such men, who don’t know how to cry, who say empathy is a weakness, that women are less, and some unfortunately become toxic leaders, fuehrers, influencers. Politics, banks, companies, hospitals, the internet… you will find them everywhere, because they are breaking upwards, they want most of attention. They have learned that pain is not to be displayed. That a man that does cry has failed. And that’s why they learned to mask their fragility. Most of all through power. They are obsessed with it. It is a question of life and death for them.
From the point of view of psychology this is an almost perfect “mechanism”. A boy that in youth did not experience acceptance, and empathy will learn to suppress, to hide, to mimic emotions. Suppressed emotions are however not going anywhere. They are only changing their form. If you cannot be sad, you will be angry. If you are afraid, you will start to control. And when you are feeling powerless, you will reforge this feeling into a will to power. Sociologists call this “hegemonic masculinity”, which is a roughly the cultural ideal of masculinity, which values strength, dominance, and dynamism. The psychologists talk about a deficit of an emotional competence, about the inability to identify and share pain. The psychologists than find the origins of anxiety, addiction, sometimes even narcissistic personality disorders. Why do you think men commit suicide 3 times as more likely than women? We never trully learn how to fail.
Narcissism is a fantastic defense mechanism. It originates from the attempt to defend your fragile ego from feelings of inadequacy. When you have a hole inside, you plug it in by iron and concrete. You will create a bunker and will defend with any weapon. And you begin to convince the World that you are unique. But every doubt cast on this uniqueness is a threat. That is why a narcissist reacts with anger, control, and manipulation. And if he is in a position of power, like a boss, politician, or influencer, his personal wound becomes a societal problem.
Studies about the so called dark triad of personal traits, that narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy show that such people tend to be highly successful at the beginning of their careers. They are self-confident, impressive, and charismatic. The people follow them because they radiate strength. But soon their mask begins to crumble. Charisma is being transformed into intimidation, confidence into arrogance, and the ability to decide, in compulsion control. Teams are breaking up, loyalty diminishes, atmosphere becomes tense. The studies speak clearly, toxic leadership increases stress, lowers productivity, and creates a space where fear becomes the basic currency. Such a governance is awaiting us now, Turek, Okamura, Babis. All of them are wounded men, fragile men, who became tyrants, because they cannot safely experience their fragility.
Which has began as a strategy of survival has become an instrument of domination. A wounded man with power is no longer fighting with his own pain. He is fighting everyone who reminds him of it. He needs to win because defeat means a touch with fragility. He needs to control because trust is too risky for him. He needs to be admired because otherwise he would have to feel the emptiness that he has within. That is why the lie, they steal, they scream, and everything they justify by their implied exceptionality, through which they however hide their fear from inner wounds.
And this is how a paradox is created which has the potential to destroy nations and the World. Men that are most yearning for love are creating around themselves an atmosphere, culture, society, where no love will save them. Because their defense is perfect and no feeling will enter their bunker. Only productivity, force, status remains. And the lost children within their souls rule over entire nations, corporations, even wars. Trump, Putin, Erdogan, Farage, Bolsonaro, Fico, Macinka, Klaus, Zeman.
Psychology calls this projection. We are often relegating onto others that which we do not want to see in ourselves. That’s why a wounded man often despise the weakness of others. They hate it because it reminds them of their own fear from weakness. He attacks it, mocks it, destroys it, and that’s how he maintains the illusion that he is above things. But the more he denies it, the more he needs it. And the circle is closing. When such a man becomes a leader, the system catches a disease. The toxicity is spreading just as reliably as a virus, people are adapting, they stop saying the truth, they are protecting themselves. A culture based on fear is surviving but doesn’t grow.
Societies led by these men are losing empathy, humor and even the ability to question things. The wounded individuals then transform entire nations into mirrors of their own pain. I have myself experienced this for instance in the National Institution for Mental Health, which was taken over by an absolutely toxic person and it took eight years to depose him and force him out of this scientific institution. And I have experience of this from many other places and organization, where you wouldn’t even expect it.
But it all begins with something apparently innocent: a boy that was told that boys don’t cry. Feelings are a weakness. He must be proud to be worthy. Nobody tried to explain to him that a real strength is not in invincibility but in the courage to be wounded. That to accept his wound is the first step to freedom. The way out does not lead through condemnation but through understanding. Wounded men are lost people. But while they do not learn to be in contact with their own fragility, they will hate fragility in others. And the world will become their hostage. The health of a society doesn’t probably begin with economy but if we allow our sons to cry. If we can transform the image of masculinity from the mask of strength to the courage to feel. And if we lean that the most dangerous beings are not those that hurt others because they are evil but those that hurt others because they cannot admit they are hurt.
And in the first place we men have to do something sound. Or we will destroy the World. That is a paradox, is it? That the highest potential to destroy the World is male fragility.
Underneath this lengthy psychobabble is a thinly veiled misandry, the hatred of men. The hatred of masculinity. This discourse about men crying and men being in touch with their feelings is nothing but a desire to make men like women. And it is the latter that actually hate to see men crying and don’t want you to vent to them about your emotions. If you boys want punani you need to be everything this soycuck says you shouldn’t be.
Women will never forgive you for being emotional. In fact women will hate anything about you that does not involve her, your dog, your hobbies (unless they involve her), video games, anything that draws attention away from her, and men cannot be themselves with women. Inviting women into your space means losing that space eventually. Everything will be done as she wants, you just front the bill, chief. Unless women submit to your ass as a man and you are the one wearing pants in a relationship, you shouldn’t be bothering about even talking to women. Because as a man you can never win.
But speaking of these men that he hates, who are all independent rollers, one wonders what the alternative is? Ursula Von der Leyen? Kaja Kallas? Emmanuel Macron? Friedrich Cocaine Merz? How are they better than Filip Turek, who is a literal alpha Chad, is smarter than all three combined and does not live with a dude? I don’t get who was supposed to hurt Filip Turek but he seems to be rather content. He is a titan, and all of these chimpanzees that oppose him just can’t compete. And here we come to women that hate Donald J. Trump or Vladimir Putin. These women are projecting their hatred for men. They are projecting their hatred for Chad. And what this simp just wrote speaks to this deep seated hatred.
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